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Happy Memorial Day! I hope everyone is having a riveting, blessed, and safe holiday. This day is often filled with fun times barbecuing with family or hanging out at the lake, but this year it has taken a new meaning for me.
On May 1st my grandpa, John, passed away. He was a Korean War veteran and served many years in the Army and then in the Active Army Reserves. When he retired from the Army he had reached the rank of Command Sergent Major. He was extremely accomplished and I am proud to call him grandpa. I had him to thank for my freedom.
My grandpa was quoted as saying that he had two loves in life: his wife, Helen, and the Army. At the time of his passing my grandparents were married 68 years. The love they had for one another was simply beautiful. When you walked into their home you could just feel the admiration and love they had for each other. It was the air they breathed.
For today’s Memorial Day I am going to think about my grandpa. I miss him more with each passing day, but I know that he is in Heaven with Jesus. He instilled so much in each of his daughters and grandkids. He meant the world to me, but I didn’t realize that till he passed.
So today I have made a playlist of the songs that will always remind me of and honor my Grandpa. Dealing with grief is tough, but the power of music helps sustain me.
1. “Grandpa, Tell Me Bout The Good Ol’ Days”
I began to sing this song when my grandpa was in the hospital. My grandpa loved to tell you stories, anywhere from him and my grandma’s camp outs to the war. In his later years he was a man of many words. I look back now and I often wish that I had listened a little closer to these stories or given him time to tell me more. He told me about the good ol’days and the good ol’days described in this song were instilled in his character. Lovers really fell in love to stay. Promises were something people kept. And Families really bowed their heads to pray. Now thinking back, I’m not sure my grandpa ever left the good ol’days.
2. Endless Love
For Christmas one year, my family put a video together of pictures from my grandparents life. This was the main song of the video and nothing describes their love better. I will always hold this song close to my heart because every time I hear it, it reminds me of my grandma and grandpa. This song gives me hope that true love is still out there and that it does still last. My grandparents are my example.
3. “Battle Hymn of The Republic”
This song has been one of my favorites for many years after I heard Garland’s version. Garland did not sing this song like a hymn, she sang it like a testimony. Now, when I listen to this song it has a new meaning. This song combines God and country. That is what I love about it. I discussed my grandpa’s love for his country earlier, but it was equally evident that my grandpa was a man of God. He loyally attended church service nearly his whole life, but that isn’t necessarily why I know he was Christian. I knew he was a Christian by his actions and looking back, in the way he would say “Love you too.”
My grandpa has been gone for exactly 30 days. He is still fresh on my mind. I often pray that God will tell him hello for me and that I love him. My mom recently told me that every time you see a cardinal that it is a sign from somebody in heaven. I have seen 4 since he has passed. This is the most I can ever remember seeing. Even though he may not physcially be with us anymore, he is talking up a storm.
For me this Memorial day is a tribute and celebration of my grandpa.
Lastly I wanted to write a grand conclusion to this article and find the words that exactly explained my grandpa. I wanted this whole article to be worded perfectly to express who he was to me. That is a lot of pressure for a writer and I don’t think I achieved it. Words are just not enough when you lose someone who is close to you. So I am going to end with what’s on my mind.
I love you Grandpa and I miss you everyday.